When we enter into a relationship, we have certain beliefs or presumptions in our minds & hearts. Several questions and doubts keep on going in and out of our minds such as what should be there in a good relationship & how we are supposed to feel & react when we are in one. These pre-assumed beliefs not only transform our behaviour in relationship but also give us more unrealistic expectations and satisfactions from our partners. Due to which we start judging our future compatibility with our partners.
Because basically we get these presumptions from what goes around us whether those are from our parents, relatives, friends, or what is shown through media. And all these things do not help us at all in fact they mislead us to the path through which sometimes we just get nowhere but only towards the end.
There are certain myths that should be essentially avoided about the beliefs of a relationship.
Relationships don’t work forcefully
When you are in a relationship it is really important for both of you to work together accordingly. Even if it requires some compromises & adjustments for your relation to work out, both of you should be able to negotiate mutually, effortlessly & happily. And always remember when a relationship is meant to work it will just work out.
Avoid being rude in putting your opinions
During the initial stages of a relationship when you dislike anything or any habit of your partner just think about it before voicing your opinions. Whether you can accept it or not? First of all you should love your partner’s worst qualities too still If you can’t then share your views about it directly to your partner as soon as you can. Just be firm & soft whenever you voice your opinions to receive constructive results.
Wrong thoughts about sex
Sexual dissatisfaction is the most common problem we face in our relationships. Because of the wrong thoughts like: if we think that we should have sex at least twice in a week & when we don’t get it then we start thinking and doubting that something is wrong with our relation. In addition to this if we compare this with our friends or researches or people around us then it will lead us to negative conclusions only. That’s why you need to discuss this directly with your partner.
Expecting our partners to read our minds
No one can read your mind or what’s going on with you until you yourself reveal it. Most of us expect this thing from our partners but if you want to understand better that how it feels to be in this type of situation, just keep yourself in your partner's shoes. And surely you won’t repeat this mistake ever.
Arguing will help
Happy relations don’t grow through arguments as good couples avoid arguments. But this doesn’t mean there should be no arguments. Arguments are there in every relationship but they are favourable only if they productive & take you to mutual agreements & resolutions. Most couples need to learn the relevant skills of arguing if they want to avoid conflicts. And above all never go to bed angry & without disclosing any argument. Because giving more time to solve problems will only worsen the situation.
Working on a relationship is not necessary
This is the most common & inappropriate myths of all. Indeed relationships require work—and lots of it. Because both the people in a relation have different desires, dreams, needs, & hopes that keeps changing accordingly. And to succeed this complicated differences working from both the ends is very important. Just be consistent in this throughout your relationship regardless of the time & situations.
Shivani
didn't know so many factors can affect our relationships. thanks for sharing this wonderful blog.